Ah, yes, the ‘ol “I can’t meet any guys online, is there something wrong with me?” question. Usually, the only thing wrong with the woman is a lack of understanding what attracts men online. Sure, a cute photo will get you in the door, but it won’t get you as far as you might think. Single parents need more than eye candy. Well, the mature ones do. You have to give men the impression you’ve got it going on “upstairs” or looks will barely matter. So what exactly are you doing wrong? Probably making one (or more) of the following mistakes…
You seem whiny, needy, desperate, jealous, negative, or way too emotional in your profile
What guy would want to date a headcase? If you have some emotional issues – seek counseling. And don’t mention them in your profile. The content tone of an online dating profile should be positive and a bit humorous. Negative people aren’t fun to be around. Does your profile reflect that of a negative person? If so, that’s likely why men aren’t contacting you.
Your response messages lack substance and/or are lame
When you receive an email or Instant Message from a guy, do you typically respond with “LOL” or 2-word messages that lack substance? This gives him the impression you’re not that into him. The guy shouldn’t be the only one working to keep the conversation flowing. Show some initiative and take control of the conversation – without interrupting him. If the chatter is running dry, bust out a funny line. Even better idea – ask him a question about his interests, education, job, etc.
Women that aren’t interested in a guy usually don’t ask him many questions. They’ll either ignore, say “LOL” to everything, or give a cheesy response that’s only purpose is to not appear rude by ignoring. Men know this. Even the most clueless guy can pick-up on these signs. So if you really do like him, you better show that to him during conversations.
Your profile pictures aren’t attractive
Looks do matter to men. Even to the 30-something single parents that are beyond their Frat Boy days. If you’re not presentable, men won’t be contacting you online. You can control how attractive you look in a profile picture. Smile pretty, get your hair done nice, and dress in a style that matches your personality. To attract a completely superficial guy, you need good genes. But who cares about these guys anyway? Even if you were blessed with amazing genes, don’t waste your time with men that only care about looks. Go after men that value personality most, and looks second.