You can be anyone you want to be online. You might actually be some sissy-boy offline, but the baddest dude around online. This can be a fun game…until you actually start meeting women. Then the gig is up. She’ll figure out you were lying sooner rather than later. And once you’re caught lying to a woman, your relationship with her is over. A few of my friends ended up getting caught in a lie. Because of their carelessness, I’m going to share with you each of their stories, and I hope they read them in shame…
“I’m (not really) 6’1”
Lying about height almost seems like the cool thing to do. My buddy is 5’10, in shoes. Barely. On his profile, he claimed to be 6’1. It’s easy to hide your actual height in a photo. He set-up a date with a woman he thought seemed interesting. He showed up for the date, she took one look at him and said, “you’re a liar, goodbye”, and walked away. Ouch!
As it turns out, she’s attracted to tall guys and men that are honest. My friend’s not generally a dishonest guy, but he certainly was in this case. How he thought she wouldn’t notice the height disparity from what his profile claimed is beyond me. I think he’s learned his lesson.
“I’m looking for a relationship, not sex (but I’d prefer sex)”
Another friend of mine tried to sign-up for a single parent dating site appearing to be a hopeless romantic. Someone gave him the idea that single Mother’s are easy. He sure didn’t learn that nonsense from me. His whole schtick was to sign-up, act like a sweet and caring person, and then sleep with them on a first date. He actually succeeded at doing this with a couple of the women he met, but even those ones grew tired of his act.
The other women he met called him out on the first date. He was probably very pushy in trying to get them back to his apartment. When the online heartthrob is nearly begging for sex on a first date, it’s a pretty good sign he was lying online. You can’t hide your true intentions once you meet her.
“My kids are my life and raise them well (or at least my ex does)”
Lying about your height or what you’re really looking for in a relationship is one thing. But to actually fail to take care of your children is inexcusable. And then to lie about it? This friend is a childhood friend of mine that I’m quite disappointed in. He doesn’t even care at all about his kids but he wants women to think he does because he knows that’s attractive.
It didn’t take long for his recent girlfriend that he met online to figure it out. His online dating profile has 3-4 mentions of how much he loves his kids. Single Mom’s were all over him because of those comments. Once they actually met him, they found out that he doesn’t pay child support and doesn’t provide anything for his kids. Needless to say, the relationships never lasted. It’s a sad situation and another prime example of why you should be honest online.