Qualities Every Single Mother Should Look for in a Man

We’d all like a tall, dark, and handsome guy. But there are other qualities you should look for in a man – more important ones. I don’t want to make this article seem like I’m trying to tell you how to think. I’m not doing that at all. But since you’re a single Mom, these qualities should ALWAYS be among the things you look for in a man you met online…

He has kids of his own that he raises the right way

You’re certainly free to date a man without kids. It doesn’t mean you’re clueless by any means. But I think you’re better off finding a man that already has kids and takes good care of them. He’ll likely be more mature. Men without kids don’t need to be mature. They are – and should be – free to do whatever the heck they want since they don’t have major responsibilities.

A funny thing happens once an immature guy has a kid – he grows up. He’ll already understand what it’s like to raise a child since he has his own. Yes, there are some deadbeat Dads out there. Tons of them, in fact, which sickens me. But I’m sure you’re smart enough to know to avoid those scumbags.

Single Mom

Single Mom

He’s hardworking and responsible

There’s something sexy about a man that works his butt off to raise his family. A hardworking man isn’t only a great father – he’s a great husband. You’ll never have to worry about bills being paid or food being on the table. He’ll do everything he can to make sure money is never too tight.

Being responsible is even more important when raising kids. I know of men that go out and get wasted while the mother watches the kids. This is very irresponsible and you’d be crazy to allow a man like that into your family. A real man takes care of his children first, then goes out to have fun.

 The mother watches the kids

The mother watches the kids

He’s fun to be around

I’m not going to go into specifics on this one because everyone’s definition of “fun” is different. But if you can’t have fun around the guy, you’ll never enjoy the relationship. He can be hardworking, responsible, and a great father, but if he’s boring to be hangout with, none of that will matter.

Life is short. Being with a guy that’s not a lot of fun to be around will make your short time on Earth less exciting. Don’t waste your life away with a partner that bores you to death. Find someone entertaining. An awesome sense of humor is a bonus.

Enjoy the relationship

Enjoy the relationship

Should I Date a Near Perfect Man I’m Not Physically Attracted To?

I do love online dating more than meeting someone at a bar or being set-up with a guy from a friend. But there are a few downsides. For me, my biggest problem has been meeting someone that doesn’t look much like they do in their profile photo. It’s pretty easy to alter a photo to make yourself look good. Heck, I do it all the time. I always try to really get to know a guy inside before meeting him. Personality is most important to me, especially since I have kids.


Though having a good personality is paramount, looks do matter. I don’t think that makes me shallow. It’s just that I have a certain type of guy I’m physically attracted to (taller than me, thin but toned, white teeth, nice smile, firm abs). On a few occasions, I’ve chatted with seemingly great guys that appeared to have those physical traits. Well, until we actually met and I found out they looked quite a bit different. They didn’t lie to me. They just posted photos that made them look a bit different than what they really do look like.

Don’t get me wrong – these weren’t ugly guys. In fact, I’m sure some women find them attractive. They’re just not my type. Two of the guys were nice and seemed to have their act together, but I never felt a real connection to them for whatever reason (hey, chemistry is hard to explain). The other guy, I felt a strong connection to him. He could make me laugh, smile, and was GREAT with my kids. There’s no doubt in my mind this guy is an excellent father. We even shared many common interests.

My kids

My kids

We were great friends…

That happened to enter into an emotional and physical relationship. I began getting somewhat serious with him because he was everything I could hope for other than his looks. But I was falling for this guy so I just knew that I would end up becoming more physically attracted to him. I’ve read articles by women saying they’ve developed attraction towards someone. Then I learned the truth…

An emotional and physical relationship

An emotional and physical relationship

You’re either physically attracted to someone or you’re not

If you don’t find someone sexually appealing, you never will. Sure, there’s always an exception to the rule. Maybe 1 out of every 100 that read this will have a different experience. But if you do, understand that you’re the exception not the rule. Rarely do we find someone physically unattractive and then change our minds down the road. That’s not how our minds work. The one exception is if he is overweight and then loses a bunch of weight or makes certain physical feature changes. Features related to genetics cannot be altered, save for plastic surgery. And who wants to date someone that is fake?

So this brings me to my question – can a relationship succeed if you aren’t physically attractive to your partner if he’s perfect in every other way? I say no it cannot. Sex with someone you’re not physically attracted to will feel more like a chore than a pleasurable, loving experience between two companions. You’ll have to talk yourself into sleeping with him. Eventually, you’ll cringe at the thought of having to sleep with him. A healthy sex life is far too important to a relationship to be taken lightly. You’re not shallow because you don’t want to be with someone you aren’t physically attracted to. If he doesn’t get your hormones rising, he’s nothing more than a good friend.

Sexually appealing

Sexually appealing

He Seems to Like Me But Refuses to Commit

I recently received an email from a single Mother that’s been dating a man she likes very much for the past few weeks. She wanted to know why her man always seems so into her but refuses to commit to a relationship with her. I don’t know this guy at all, nor am I familiar with her relationship. So it’s hard to say specifically why he won’t commit. What I do know is there’s always a reason a man doesn’t want a committed relationship with a woman he’s been dating. Most of those reasons are listed below…

It’s too early on in a relationship

Rushing into commitment is reckless. You’re setting yourself up to get hurt if things don’t work out. Men are naturally less interested in long-term relationships than women early on in a relationship. Don’t push him to commit early on. Let the relationship naturally progress. If you keep giving him the compassion he desires and are fun to be around, he’ll eventually have no problem being your long-term boyfriend. Or, even better – husband.

Long-term relationships

Long-term relationships

He’s still hung up on his ex

Avoid men that just can’t get over their ex. If he’s constantly talking about her – even negatively – he’s probably still in love. He might even secretly want to get back together with her. You shouldn’t have to listen to him complain about the ex. If he does, tell him to go fly a kite and go back to her. Your relationship with him will never last anyway.

His true intentions are to hookup with you

It’s frustrating knowing there are men that use single Mother’s for sex. They pose as men interested in long-term relationships, only to fool you. Yes, sex is a major part in a relationship, but it shouldn’t be the only thing he’s looking for. If it is, you’ll end up getting hurt. Besides, he probably has 3 other women he’s doing the same thing to. Don’t let him get down your pants early on in a relationship. Make him earn his way down there. A man that can’t respect a woman’s desire to wait for sex isn’t a man worth dating.

 Men are use single Mother’s for sex

Men are use single Mother’s for sex

You’re wrong about his feelings towards you

Maybe he thinks you’re cute and sexy so he sticks around. Every guy enjoys being with a good looking gal. But that doesn’t mean he feels strongly about you on an emotional level. Start paying attention to his body language and the way he converses with you. You might just be a woman he’s physically attracted to but thinks of as nothing more than a friend. Women often fall for a guy and don’t realize he’s not really into dating her. Our emotions work in a funny way. A way that is indescribable. Sometimes you’re not thinking with your head because you’re thinking with your heart instead.

Cute and sexy

Cute and sexy

4 Dead Giveaways She’ll Break Your Heart…Or Worse

“The worst thing she can do is break my heart. What do I have to lose?”

There are so many flaws in the above statement. If she breaks your heart, it’s going to bother you for a while. But like most sane human beings, you’ll get over it in time. When you’re a single Dad, she can do more harm than just to your emotions. A crazy woman can dry your bank account or, even worse, ruin your family. It’s often difficult to spot a potentially harmful woman from her online profile, but these 4 early signs indicate you’ll be lucky if she ONLY breaks your heart…

She continually asks you for money early on in a relationship

A smart, greedy woman knows how to spot a sucker. They also know how to convince that sucker to give them money without making it obvious they’re using you. They ask for small amounts a couple of times a week. The money almost always comes with a favor in return (i.e. sex) or no guy would continue giving them money. Don’t give any woman money early on in a relationship. What kind of self-respecting woman asks for money from a man she barely knows? “Can you put some gas in my car? I don’t have any money until payday and my tank is on empty” once seems harmless. It usually turns into twice. Then three times, four times, etc.

She’ll Break Your Heart

She’ll Break Your Heart

She starts bossing your kids around

Your kids are your kids – not hers. One day, if the relationship becomes serious and you’re ready for marriage, she can become a step-mother. Until then, the relationship she has with your kids should be nothing more than a mentor, a friend, and someone they can go to for advice. Discipline and things of that nature are your responsibility for now. A woman that tries to run the household early on in a relationship is far too controlling. Your kids will start to hate her.

She has no problem putting out on a first date

Let’s face it – when things go well on a first date, our hormones often get the best of us. But a strong-willed woman with high self-esteem won’t allow a first date to end with sex. Few lasting relationships started with sex on a first date. There’s always one (or both) partners that become far too attached to someone they slept with on a first date. Unfortunately, this attachment turns to heartbreak because of what I just said about these types of relationships not lasting.

 First date to end with sex

First date to end with sex

She has a crazy ex that she won’t stop talking about

I’m going to let you in on a little secret about some women. There are certain females that absolutely love being treated like garbage, even though it drives them insane. They’re very immature and should be avoided at all costs. If she’s constantly complaining about how bad her ex treated her – and still does – and then mentions how she tried to leave him for 3 years but kept coming back to him, get rid of her IMMEDIATELY!

She’s a psycho and she will dump you faster than you can say, “will you marry me?” because you refuse to treat her like garbage. Women like this are emotional train wreck’s, immature, and horrible mothers. Stay away from her and the other 3 types of women above. You’ll thank for it!

Will you marry me

Will you marry me

Signs She’s Going to Be Too Much of a Headache to Date

Some women are crazy. Even ones with children. Avoid the psychotic type like the plague. They’ll make your life miserable and drive your kids insane. My brother fell victim to a relationship with a crazy woman. She took advantage of him being a nice guy, bossed his children around, and tried to control his life. His son was mad at him for weeks. It took a trip to Disney World for his son to get over the anger he had towards my brother for bringing that crazy woman into their lives.


Fortunately, for them, the relationship was a headache that only lasted a short period. There were no lingering issues associated with dating her such as stealing money from him or permanently harming the relationship between him and his son. Those things can and do happen if you’re not careful. Date sane women and avoid the following types of women

She asks too many questions

Women that are interested in a man will ask a lot of questions. They want to know about who you are, what you’re looking for, and where you see yourself in the future so they can determine if you’re worth their time. Women that go beyond the necessary questions they should ask a man probably have trust issues. These women will never trust you no matter what you say because they think every guy is the same as their unfaithful ex.

I’ve dated women that didn’t trust me for this same reason. They just can’t get the fact that their ex cheated on them 5 years ago. The pain still lingers and it continues to rub off on every guy she will date for the rest of her life. Get rid of her before things get serious. She’ll question everything you do and always ask who you’re with. You’re not 16 years old and she’s not your mother. A strong relationship is built on trust. You’ll never have a strong relationship with a woman that refuses to trust anyone.

Have a strong relationship

Have a strong relationship

Her crazy ex affects her behavior

I certainly can sympathize with women that have issues collecting child support from the father or have to deal with a deadbeat baby daddy. There’s really no excuse for a father that refuses to support his children. But if her mood is constantly impacted by things he does or says, she’s going to become a major pain in the butt. The same goes for you. If you have a crazy ex, keep the issues between you and the ex to yourself. The only downside to dating a woman with kids is potential problems getting rid of a psycho ex boyfriend.

 Ex boyfriend

Ex boyfriend

She starts asking you for money

RED FLAG! She has “diapers to buy and baby daddy won’t give me any money for them”. That’s where you come into play – if you’re a sucker. You would be surprised by how many women sign-up for single parent dating sites with poor intentions. They’re struggling financially and the father of their child is a deadbeat. So they look for a man online that will give them money to cover some expenses. All the while, they’re buttering you up, acting like they really like you. They don’t like you. They like your money.

Emotions sometimes get the best of us. When we start to fall for a woman, we make careless decisions based on that affection. Our minds work in mysterious ways. For example, you’re smart enough to know that a woman you barely know asking for money is just taking advantage of you. But you might fall for her trap simple because you’re thinking with your heart and not your head. Just stick to this rue, NO MATTER WHAT – unless you’re in a committed relationship with a woman you trust, NEVER give her any money for any reason. Period.

Committed relationship with a woman

Committed relationship with a woman