Searching for Mr. Right? Aren’t we all! Though I’d love to talk about the qualities of Mr. Right (tall, dark, and handsome, of course), for this article, I’m going to talk about who Mr. Wrong is to a single mother. Who is Mr. Wrong? A man with no kids. I am a strong advocate of single mother’s dating single dad’s. That’s not to say a man without kids can’t be the perfect boyfriend. But, in most cases, he won’t be because of these 5 reasons…
A funny thing happens when an immature guy becomes a father – he instantly grows up. It’s like God smacks him upside the head and says, “hey, dude, you have a kid now – partying days are over”. No one smacks single guys upside the head and tells them to grow up because they don’t have to. They’re only responsible for themselves. If they go out drinking on a Tuesday night until the wee hours of the morning, their only problem is trying to wake up in time for work the next morning. They don’t have to worry about putting their kids to bet and getting them ready for school the next morning. A single dad does. A man with kids is generally more mature.
2.Already knows how to be a father
As long as you’re with a guy, even if the kids don’t refer to him as “Dad”, he’s still going to be, in some way, a fatherly figure to them. Do you want someone with experience of being a father mentoring your children, changing their diapers, and getting them to basketball practice on time? Or do you want someone that hasn’t so much as changed a diaper helping you raise them? Experience counts for something. If they don’t have it, they can’t have you.
3.Here’s the story…of a man named Brady…
Ever watch the Brady Bunch growing up? Awesome show, right? Who wouldn’t want to bring two families together? Stepbrothers and stepsisters almost always get along well, as long as they have something in common. This is even better if your kid is an only child. Now he/she will have someone to play with at home. On the show, the children on the Brady Bunch got along quite well. As you probably know, television isn’t always reality. You can’t bring two completely different families together and expect perfect harmony without the kids already knowing each other well. Help build their friendships long before you actually become a family.
4.Your schedule is too hectic for a man with no kids
A man with no children wants to get out and have fun, at all times. You can’t just up and leave your children on a moment’s notice to go out with him. He’ll likely get frustrated with not being able to see you when he wants, and go find a woman without kids. A single dad will fully understand why you can’t be so spontaneous.
5.Oh yes it’s ladies night!
Having kids and a boyfriend doesn’t mean you can’t go out with your girlfriends. A boyfriend without kids is probably not someone you’d trust leaving your kids with. But a boyfriend that has kids of his own may be able to do you a solid and watch your kids while you go out with the girls on a Friday night. After all, he’s already going to be watching his own. Just remember to return the favor (hint hint!).