I’m not going to lie – my confidence is shattered when I go out on a first date and then she starts to ignore me. I know this is a sign she didn’t like me. I start questioning what’s wrong with me. Then I usually come to the realization that I screwed things up. I’m always honest with myself because that’s the only way I can improve. It’s usually not personal when a woman isn’t into you. You probably made some mistakes on a date that led her to determine you’re not a suitable mate. I’ll bet the mistake(s) you made were one of these…
You weren’t confident enough
Ask any woman what she looks for in a man. The top answer will be confidence. For single mothers, this is even more accurate. A confident man is assertive and knows how to take control of a household. Take control of the date and don’t be afraid to go in for a kiss when she’s giving you indications she likes you. Step up and be a man or she’ll lose interest in you. Confidence is sexy. If you don’t have it, you better learn how to get it.
You rambled on and on about nothing, or even worse – yourself
Women want to get to know the guy they’re on a date with. But they don’t need your entire life story. That won’t give her much time to talk about herself, which is something women LOVE to do. Let her do most of the talking, but stay in control of the conversation. If she wants to know something about you, she’ll ask you. Make sure you’re always paying attention to everything she says so you can respond with a comment related to what she said.
You didn’t charm her
Were you able to make her laugh? And I’m not talking about a courtesy laugh women give so they don’t hurt your feelings. I’m talking about a genuine laugh and smile when you talk. Laughter is very important on a first date. If you can make her laugh, she’ll want to see you again. Funny guys are not boring to be around. With that said, don’t be TOO funny. Everything you say should not be a sarcastic remark. You’re not trying out for Last Comic Standing on a date. There’s more to charming a woman than making her laugh. Talking about anything she finds interesting is also good. You must smile and look her in the eyes throughout the night. A nice smile and good eye contact will get you far with a woman.
You dressed like a bum
A suit and a tie are unnecessary on a first date unless you’re taking her out to some 5-star restaurant. But that doesn’t mean you should show up with a pair of Jorts, a ball cap, Metallica T-shirt on. How you present yourself will determine her first impressions of you. Wear a nice, clean pair of jeans. Go spend a few extra bucks and shop at a store that sells more stylish jeans than a typical department store. The shirt should be button-down and should match well with the jeans. Don’t underestimate the importance of wearing nice shoes. She will notice. A crummy pair of shoes can offset the otherwise nice outfit you’re wearing.